This man has ruined my life for nearly 20 years Worcestershire, England, UK. Worcestershire, England, UK. This man has ruined my life for nearly 20 years total. Ive been with him since school and he has been my Husband for the last 10 years. Financial and emotional abuse throughout. Only found out about the affairs after I left to move into rented. Decided I am going to write a best selling book about all the red flags, make my £££ and live my best life…. so… please…. If you have ever dated this man, share your details I would love to include it all in my book. X x x